Inspiring and empowering people to maximize their quality of life in spite of a chronic health condition or a disability

STEPS TO CHANGE

  Issue # 6                                                                                                                                                                          October 2004

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TRAVELS WITH TRISH

FEATURE ARTICLE

FEEDBACK FORUM

CHUCKLES TO LIGHTEN YOUR DAY

FR~EE RESOURCES

WORDS TO CONSIDER

ABOUT TRISH

 

A chronic health condition can be a catalyst for personal growth and self-discovery. 

Are you ready to break free of the bindings that are holding you back from discovering your own personal level of optimal health?

 We all have one – no matter what the condition is that ails us.  

I challenge you to want to discover yours!

I take people from an overwhelmed existence to a comfortably paced lifestyle. 

Are you ready for that journey?

Contact me today for a fr~ee sample coaching session and get started on living your maximum life.

TRAVELS WITH TRISH

There’s absolutely nothing like the variegated colours of the leaves in early autumn.  Sometimes, during the cold, slushy days of winter or the oppressive heat and humidity of summer, I long to live in a temperate climate.  But when I see the richness and depth of the trees in fall or the budding of the crocuses in spring, I’m profoundly grateful to God for the change of the seasons. 

I’m writing this on Thanksgiving weekend, on our way back from Windsor where Ernest and I have enjoyed the company of my family.  For my fellow Canadians, I hope that you’ve had a Thanksgiving filled with gratitude and warm fellowship.

The Halloween season will soon be upon us, promising devilish “trick or treaters” and thoughts of our own childhood seasons of fall turning to winter.

I hope this newsletter sees you well or at least stable in health.

Till next time, take care and God bless.  

~~ Trish :-)

trish@changingpaces.com ~~ 905-967-3014 ~~ www.ChangingPaces.com 

FEATURE ARTICLE

ENERGY AND THE DELICATE BALANCE

Energy is that resource or force that you draw upon to get you through the day.  It enables you to physically move about, to be cognitively present and to remain emotionally in charge.

For people who are healthy, energy can be perceived as an endless, renewable resource.  That’s not the case for those of us with a chronic health condition (CHC).

If you’ve ever felt the onset of fatigue as it “hits you like a brick wall”, then you know exactly what I mean.

Energy conservation is critical to those with a CHC.  That can be as simple as sitting down instead of standing when possible or as dramatic as using a wheelchair instead of a walker to accompany your family to the mall.

I like to compare the limited, fixed amount of energy that a person with a CHC has with that of a car battery with one dead cell.  The battery can no longer hold a full charge so sometimes it’ll start the car and sometimes it won’t.  It’s an unpredictable situation that there’s no way to control.

If you have a good battery that takes a full charge, your energy source is reliable and dependable.  But if your battery has one dead cell, then you’re always starting the day with less than a full charge.  Furthermore, you’re never certain when it will fail completely and leave you stranded.

Hence, the need for energy conservation and balance in our lives.

Balance can be defined as a state of equilibrium.  In our daily lives, balance must be found between productivity or work and leisure or rest.

Just as too much weight on one side of an old-fashioned scale will cause it to tip and become immobile, we too would cease to move if we over-extend ourselves on either work or rest.

Productivity is important for self-esteem and rest is important for self-care but either activity to extreme would prevent us from effectively managing our lives and our health.

Balance doesn’t happen by accident though.  It’s only accomplished through proactive planning.  The easiest way to manifest balance in your life is to plan blocks of time to dedicate to each side of the scale.  If you work all day, be sure to plan leisure for the evening.  If that isn’t possible, and you need to be productive all day, plan to set aside leisure time the next day.

Granted, it’s a never-ending challenge, but well worth the effort in terms of maintaining the energy you need for the quality of life that you deserve.

FEEDBACK FORUM

"What a wonderfully positive support group you lead!  I hate to say that in my short time with MS, I have experienced mostly negative groups with people who spend an hour complaining about their illnesses.  Don't get me wrong; I understand that some people just need a forum to vent. But the groups never end on a good note, unfortunately. On the other end of the spectrum, your group is very refreshing and I will definitely be back."

 Jeff Cadwell is a Life Coach who lives with multiple sclerosis.

You can visit Jeff on the web at www.JeffCadwell.com.

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“When things overwhelm me, it helps to have an unbiased opinion, knowing that I'm not being judged & helping to guide me back to confidence. Also knowing I’m not burdening friends or speaking out of turn. Trish made me aware of my many blessings. She is right on the mark with references, remembering names & connections showing her interest in my concerns. The "homework" gave me insight into my outlook & how to look at life from other angles. To hear her welcoming voice with positive follow up remarks made me aware to try to keep out negativity. My health conditions have greatly improved.  I've lost weight and am interested in life again. Very little pain, if any still remains.”

PGP is a retiree living with arthritis, fibromyalgia and depression.

CHUCKLES TO LIGHTEN YOUR DAY

Upon hearing that her elderly grandfather had just passed away, Katie went straight to her grandparent's house to visit her 95-year-old grandmother and comfort her. 

When she asked how her grandfather had died, her grandmother replied, "He had a heart attack while we were making love on Sunday morning.”

Horrified, Katie told her grandmother that two people nearly 100 years old having sex would surely be asking for trouble. 

"Oh no, my dear," replied granny. "Many years ago, realizing our advanced age, we figured out the best time to do it was when the church bells would start to ring. It was just the right rhythm. Nice and slow and even.  Nothing too strenuous, simply in on the Ding and out on the Dong." 

She paused to wipe away a tear, and continued, "He'd still be alive if the ice cream truck hadn't come along."

FR~EE RESOURCES

 
TeleSupport Group

Support for People with a Chronic Health Condition

(membership is a $10 per month value – yours FREE)

Held the 1st Thurs of every month 7:00 to 8:00 pm (Eastern)

What's a TeleSupport Group?

Glad you asked that!  It's like an in-person support group meeting in that there is a facilitator (me) and there'll be participants (yes, hopefully you) and we'll be getting together to share the challenges and successes we've experienced living with a chronic health condition.  The differences are that you don’t have to leave your house, you don’t have to drive to some distant location and you don’t even have to get dressed! 

How do I join?

If you want to join our TeleSupport Group, simply email me with your first name only or call me at 905-967-3014 and I’ll give you the bridgeline number to call to join us.  I hope you can.  This is a wonderful opportunity for fellowship and support that you'll be able to experience from the comfort of your own home.  Contact me today to get the details on our next meeting!

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TeleClass

 3 Strategies for Living Well with Chronic Illness

(this event is a $30 value – yours FREE)

Held the 2nd Thurs of every month 7:00 to 8:00 pm (Eastern)

Are you ready to break free of the bindings that are holding you back from discovering your own personal level of optimal health?  We all have one - no matter what the condition is that ails us. I challenge you to want to discover yours!  

Class Description:

Over the course of one hour we'll explore 3 great strategies that you can incorporate into your life right away that will help you live well with chronic illness.  The key messages that you'll take away with you will include the ABC's for finally taking control.  Class notes will be provided by email following the session.

How do I register for the class?

Call me today at 905-967-3014 or email me, provide me with your first name only and I’ll provide you with the bridgeline to join us for the next class.  I hope you can be with us for this interactive event. Contact me today - you'll be glad you did!

WORDS TO CONSIDER

This 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably styled and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready.

As she manoeuvred her walker to the elevator, the nurse provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window.

”I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

"Mrs.. Jones, you haven't seen the room. Just wait." the nurse insisted.  "That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied.

"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.  Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind.  I’ve already decided to love it. 

It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up.  I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.

Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away just for this time in my life.

Old age is like a bank account; you withdraw from it what you've previously put in.

So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.  Thank you for your part in filling my memory bank. I am still depositing.”

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1.      Free your heart from hatred

2.      Free your mind from worries

3.      Live simply

4.      Give more

5.      Expect less

ABOUT TRISH

Trish Robichaud is a Maximum Life Coach living with multiple sclerosis.  She's grateful to have been blessed with a God-given, instinctive ability for seeing assets in people and then reflecting those assets back to them. This enables her clients to confidently reach for and unleash their full potential.  

She facilitates TeleClasses and a monthly TeleSupport Group at no charge to participants as well as publishes a free monthly electronic newsletter.  Her background is in business with training in supportive counselling and life skills facilitation.  

Together with her experience advocating for people with disabilities, this makes her ideally suited to coaching others through their life and vocational transitions. She can be found on the web at www.ChangingPaces.com. 

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